If you want to get the full library of guides/worksheets upgrade to the paid version! Upgrade Membership The 5 Most Common Regrets Dads Have With Their Kids Hey all, Over the years I have had a lot of dads sit in my office and talk about their kids. My job has allowed me a window in every type of family structure I can imagine. Some Dads come in when their kids are young, trying to figure out how to be more present, how to manage the stress they are bringing home, how to show up better for...
3 days ago • 4 min read
If you want to get the full library of guides/worksheets upgrade to the paid version! Upgrade Membership At Least It Wasn't Number Two We are potty training at the Werhan house... For those of you who have been through this, you already know what that means. For those of you who have not, let me paint you a picture... I was walking past the bathroom back into my room when I noticed water gushing out of the hallway bathroom. Initially, every bad thought/word went through my mind as I opened...
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If you want to get the full library of guides/worksheets upgrade to the paid version! Upgrade Membership What is the habit you most want to break right now? Hey all, Let me tell you about one of the most common things I see when people are trying to break a bad habit. Most of the time, it is not really about the habit itself. The guy who cannot stop drinking at night may not actually be addicted to bourbon, but rather the stress reliever that comes after a long day. The bourbon is just what...
16 days ago • 4 min read
If you want to get the full library of guides/worksheets upgrade to the paid version! Upgrade Membership "We might think that we are stuck with the mind we have, but habits can be unlearned, the mind can let go, and our lives can be transformed." Does it take 21 days to build a habit? Hey all, Today we're talking about habits. But first I need to tell you about my pillow situation. Bachelor me was minimal. At one point in my 20's I had a mattress on the floor, a coffee maker, and a rice...
about 2 months ago • 4 min read
If you want to get the full library of guides/worksheets upgrade to the paid version! Upgrade Membership “A fool gives full vent … but a wise man holds it back.” — Proverbs 29:11 Most of us grew up hearing about IQ… It showed up in school testing and conversations about who was smart and who was not. The idea was simple: intelligence is measurable, it predicts success, and the higher your number the better off you are. The term IQ (Intelligence Quotient) was coined by German psychologist...
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If you want to get the full MH4M library of clinical worksheets upgrade to the paid version! Upgrade Membership The Art of Saying No My two year old daughter has figured something out that most grown adults have not. She has mastered the word no. With zero hesitation and completely unapologetic she can whip that sucker out. I asked her to eat her broccoli tonight. No. I asked her to put on her shoes so we could leave the house. No. I asked her to stop pouring her entire cup of water onto our...
2 months ago • 3 min read
If you want to get the full MH4M library of clinical worksheets upgrade to the paid version! Upgrade Membership Somewhere in America right now... ...a grown man is standing in his garage, staring at a lawnmower deciding whether today is a diagonal stripes day or a checkerboard day. He might tell you it is about curb appeal. Maybe about keep up property value. About not being the house that drags down the whole street. But you and I both know that is not it. Men may not go to therapy. Men may...
3 months ago • 4 min read
If you want to get the full library of guides/worksheets upgrade to the paid version! Upgrade Membership In 2023, I was traveling to India, sitting in the Mumbai airport waiting for my next connecting flight. It had been a long 20-something hours of nonstop traveling when a security guard approached me and asked me to follow him. I did not know why. I just followed him down through elevators, through hallways, deeper into the heart of the airport, until we reached a small, secluded room. An...
3 months ago • 5 min read
Hey all, I want to tell you about something that happened right here in Kansas this past Fourth of July that has really impacted me. But first I want to set the scene... Imagine you are 19 years old and you sign up to serve your country. You do the training. Then you deploy. And for the next eight, twelve, maybe sixteen months, your entire nervous system gets rewired around one singular biological imperative: survive. Loud noises start to become potential threats. Unfamiliar vehicle on the...
3 months ago • 4 min read
"Attachment is a unifying principle that reaches from the biological depths of our being to its furthest spiritual reaches." — Jeremy Holmes, Hey All! There’s an Harvard experiment from the early 1970s that has really shaped the way I approach each client I work with in session called “The Still Face Experiment”. A mom sits with her baby. They’re playing. Smiling. Locking eyes back and forth in that normal rhythm of connection. Then, on cue, the mom’s face goes still. Blank she stops...
3 months ago • 3 min read
